(6 hours spent on this book over weekend is of great worth. )
"The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time" is a captive fiction on a special boy who could not feel others' emotion.
how to handle a boy:
- who feels panic or hits others when being touched
- who refuses to eat if different sort of food touch each other,
- who never looks at you when you talk with him,
- who screams when angery and confused, but literarlly could not feel any anger from anyone else,
- who is willing to injure himself by jumping out of parents car when another (non-familar) boy in the same car
- …
A person may not be able to understand the above description without experiencing such type of behaviors. I bet any sigle item from above list can drive parents mad in real life. When comparing any of these items, any big issue in parents' eyes like "picky eater", "being nerdy", "not friendly to neighbors", "fail to get A in exam" are totally negligible.
The father and mother in the fiction are flawed but they are really great in their own way. The father and the mother have conducted something that the society defined as immorals, but they showed endless love and patience to the boy under an extreme pressure as parents. The pressure is only understood by people who experience something similar. The pressue are never ended in time, finace, and the worst one - emotion. The father and the mother use harsh words and often argue with each others, and even betrayed each other, in their efforts to excape the never-eneded pressure and desperation, but they show greatest love and care to the boy.
Some quotations from the book:
"and sometimes he [the father] tried to talk to me through the door, but I didn't answer him. and sometimes I heard him sitting on the floor outside the door quietly for a long time."
Another dialogue between the boy and the father. The boy distrusted his father and he could be near to his father only when his mother is also near to him.
And Mother was standing behind him so I didn't scream.
Then he came a bit closer to me and he crouched down like you do with dogs to show that you are not an Aggressor and he said, "I wanted to ask you how the exam went."
But I didn't say anything.
And Mother said, "Tell him, Christopher."
But I still didn't say anything.
And Mother said, "Please, Christopher."
So I said, "I don't know if I got all the questions right because I was really tired and I hadn't eaten any food so I couldn't think properly."
And then Father nodded and he didn't say anything for a short while. Then he said "Thank you." And I said, "What for?"
And he said, "Just … thank you." Then he said, "I'm very proud of you, Christopher. Very proud. I'm sure you did really well."
And then he went away and I watched the rest of University Challenge.
Here is Another dialogue at the ending part of book, where the father tries to gain his 15-years-old boy's trust.
And Mother picked me up from Father's house one day after she had finished work and Father said, "Christopher, can I have a talk with you?"
And I said, "No."
And Mother said, "It's OK. I'll be here."
And I said, "I don't want to talk to Father."
And Father said, “I’ll do you a deal."
And he was holding the kitchen timer, which is a big plastic tomato sliced through the middle, and he twisted it and it started ticking.
And he said,"Five minutes, OK? That's all. Then you can go."
So I sat on the sofa and he sat on the armchair and Mother was in the hallway and Father said, "Christopher, look…Things can't go on like this. I don't know about you, but this. this just hurts too much. You being in the house but refusing to talk to me … You have to learn to trust me … And I don't care how long it takes. If it's a minute one day and two minutes the next and three minutes the next and it takes years I don't care. Because this is important. This is more important than anything else."
And then he tore a little strip of skin away from the side of the thumbnail on his left hand.
And then he said, "Let's call it … let's call it a project. A project we have to do together. You have to spend more time with me. And I… I have to show you that you can trust me. And it will be difficult at first because … because it's a difficult project.
But it will get better. I promise."
Then he rubbed the sides of his forehead with his finger-tips, and he said, "You don't have to say anything, not right now.
You just have to think about it. And, um… I've got you a present. To show you that I really mean what I say. And to say sorry. And because… well, you’ll see what I mean”
…
When you read into the dialogue, you will be deep moved by the father's desire to communicate with his boy, courage and patience he exhibits and desperation behind these words.
This book portrays a father's great love to his special son by a quite simple yet a realistic plot. Solute the father and love showed in this story!
